If Love can be understood then fragmented Love can be repaired and your interpretation of Love transcends towards another entity.
With societal forces of survival, leading to personal emotional dyslexia, personal fragmented disconnection surfaces. The capabilities to form coherent thinking between two people is then lost.
Love is not complex in its deeper intrinsic self, if we disregard societies interpretation. In its deepest sense it is a feeling of innate inclusiveness. When inclusiveness is eroded, individualism surfaces and two become separate. If understood, this can be repaired.
To understand Love is to ask why? And to ask 'why', leads to the eventual understanding of yourself. However, it is confronting. As you are questioning all your emotional programmed ideologies impacted on you by societal perceptions. Societal perceptions impact your emotional self, causing a malfunction of your psyche and moves you away from your entity of Self.
It is also important to understand that the societal word Love is determined by our societies fixation on Love as the absolute meaning in a close relationship. However, our life moves through a state of Universal Flow - a Flow of Possibilities - and inter-connectivity within is part of this. Using Love as a predetermined basis of a relationship is not open to flexibility of the essence of connectivity in life. For this reason I interchange the narrative from Love to Connectivity - which is more universally integral within life.
I haven't got this far in life without asking questions and wondering why. And finding out the depth of Your-Self has a profound impact on your realism of Life in our society. This leads to transcendental contentment, truth and an understanding of elementary relationships. (>)
Ned and Alissa’s Relationship is an Illustration of Fragmented Love.
Sexual Content Warning. A Part of this Article includes Sexual Connectivity
Ned and Alissa’s relationship was one that combined a connective energy, communication, love and sensuality. They grew together. Their energy together was of togetherness and a need for each other. Alissa was a spirit that combined spirituality with Love, and sexuality with connection, and Ned responded to Alissa’s kindness and love with enthusiasm. They became a match for each other and fell in Love.
Alissa's feelings about love, at this time, were written in a card:
"To My Ned. Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more. You Ned, were born an individual. Don't die a copy. We came to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back."
Alissa’s external growth caused her to pull away from Ned and endeavours by Ned to repair a fractured relationship with different communicative methods were not favourably received. Alissa still said she Loved Ned and always will; which Ned found confusing. How could someone still love another while pulling away?
Why does Love in its deepest sense deteriorate to this level? Alissa’s explanation was she had grown and changed into a more rounded woman. Her need, she said, was not solely about giving and pleasing. Ned knew though that life does involve the dual nature of giving to the one you love, and also living within the constructs of our society. It is recognising that external novelty is only a temporary excitement and can not be sustainable for inner peace in one's future of happiness depth.
Had Love then diminished through a more diverse knowledge base predominantly assigned for employment processes, where this interest had overtaken emotion? Or had this diminished through more of an understanding about herself? Each had played a role in Alissa's change. However, it was a 'veneer' change, as the 'Energy of Love,' if recognised, runs deeper within our consciousness and the 'veneer' change is only associated with external novelty.
The question Alissa also asked herself, and was confronted with, was whether her past giving was more aligned within sexuality and not Love. She began to question this past.
Alissa had been a spiritual sexual woman. Open and diverse to experience sexuality in a more profound and deep form. She also used to communicate with the word Love and the giving of Love, through written and verbal narratives. Her life within, in the past, she stated, was one aligned to Love. Ned now reflected on the obvious present intrusion: "Her emotion had been replaced by external novelty."
The question must now be asked: Has our society grown to protect individuality as a requirement encompassing personal liberty; entrenched in its desire to continually project only individual rights? Thus so participants in our society can survive in our competitive environment?
A society that is ever striving for peace through meaningless materialism and instant gratification is a society feeling un-belonging. Personal belonging to our intrinsic divinity of self is profound and meaningful, rather than disconnected spiritualism within a society of disconnected souls.
Our innate natural desire is to feel a belonging with a spiritually connected to Nature.
In conclusion, our society has an unquenchable interest in the external entertainment industry; rather than an interest in furthering a nurturing of our inner Self. The entertainment industry requires no effort and is easier. However, it is destroying our inner creativity and destroying relationships with its addictive visual monopoly.
Questions, observation, feelings, subjectivity, intention, emotion, mind, spirit, dream and create. This gives us our own higher reality. The material world is secondary to a mystical experience and consciousness is based on the capabilities of our mind. When we sit quietly we are able to feel and listen to our body communicating with mind. By continually and addictively seeking external excitement we are lost within the world of someone else's creation - not ours.